Some of you who read my other blog might remember this entry – I was printing off my posts tonight and came across it and thought it would be a good “what to say” entry.
I used to answer the phone calls, letters and e-mails that pour into headquarters. Now, someone else does it and I don’t see them – unless they’re super critical – then they end up on my desk for me to answer.
Let me just say, that we read and respect all correspondence and we do make changes based on feedback. Just recently we received a very nice letter from a pastor questioning our use of a verse. We checked it. The pastor was right and we changed it. (The concept was correct, we just didn’t use the best verse to back it up.)
But some letters? They tell us how they’ve been leaders for years, but such and such a program or book or curriculum isn’t worth much except as liners for birdcages. (Hello? And you’re writing to tell us how important it is for you to share the gospel with kids and yet, you make statements like that? Could you not simply say, “I would’ve use another verse to illustrate that point?”)
Well, being that I had two e-mails make their way to my desk this week and both of them were complaints about things the e-mail writers hadn’t even SEEN yet, this has been on my mind. Could you not at least wait to see what you were writing about?
(I especially liked the one that said our founder would roll over in his grave if he knew what we were doing. I responded that I had just talked to said founder and he was very excited about what we were doing – no, he’s not in his grave. He’s very much alive and working at HQ.)
But I always wonder about Christians who are so cruel to each other? Where do they get off being so unkind? Did they miss the message on Ephesians 4:32? Did they miss those Sunday school lessons about building each other up? Did they skip out the Sunday the focus was on treating each other with love?
I had already been mulling these thoughts over in my brain this week, when I received my Writer’s Digest (pg. 12-13 Inkwell column)in the mail. I saw an editorial about this very things (from a secular point of view). The author talked about being part of a writer’s club and how those writers said horribly mean things to each other instead of simply saying, “you need more descriptive words.”
Then he made some suggestions. Things like being positive, or not saying anything at all. But then he ended by saying that if you absolutely can’t think of even a tiny little compliment to give the other person – you need to cover yourself with an unrelated nice gesture – like giving the person a kitten.
Good point. Sometimes I think Christians would do well to give each other a lot more kittens.
(Well, second thought, let’s make that chocolate.)